The Butterfly’s Struggle


If there is no struggle, there is no progress ~Frederick Douglass

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole. Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily but it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it, expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge and expand enough to support the body, Neither happened! In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around. It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand: The restricting cocoon and the struggle required by the butterfly to get through the opening was a way of forcing the fluid from the body into the wings so that it would be ready for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us. We will not be as strong as we could have been and we would never fly.

2019- Free To Be ME: Happily Ever After

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If you’re sick and tired of feeling deeply sad, unsatisfied, struggling, stressing, suffering, settling and sacrificing your health, your weight, wishes, wants and your happiness in all your relationships and feel afraid to share the truth of what you want, who you are, what you desire & deserve, I can help. 

2019 can & will be the year you finally awaken and fully rise to your authentic size. We will uncover what moves the magic in you so you can create with commitment, clarity, confidence courage, and self CARE- the life you love and live your own version of Happily Ever After. It’s your time.


2019- Free To Be ME: Happily Ever After

2019 It’s Your Time

If you’re sick and tired of feeling deeply sad, unsatisfied, struggling, stressing, suffering, settling and sacrificing your health, your weight, wishes, wants and your happiness in all your relationships and feel afraid to share the truth of what you want, who you are, what you desire & deserve, I can help. 

2019 can & will be the year you finally awaken and fully rise to your authentic size. We will uncover what moves the magic in you so you can create with commitment, clarity, confidence courage, and self CARE- the life you love and live your own version of Happily Ever After. It’s your time.

Contact me today

All Great Changes are Preceded by Chaos- Queen Up and Fully Rise To Your Authentic Size

As a Coach/Mentor/Teacher and Healer I have worked with hundreds of women (and men) who’ve experienced one or all of the following.

There are 3 reasons that make people finally want to change their circumstances and living conditions.

1. They’ve finally had enough pain, drama, chaos & craziness that they cannot take it anymore or hurt for one more single moment. Sort of like leaving your hand on the elevating heat of the stove. They are either willing to move it off the burner altogether & move on or move it to another coil that’s just getting warmed up. That’s the beginning phase of the desire & determination.

2. Spiritual Mental, Emotional or Physical boredom. Almost to the point of exhaustion. Their dreams are wilting like a dying plant begging for water & love. The slow & steady buildup and breakdown. The throwing in of the towel and accepting defeat, despair and depression. Same rut & routine with slight variation from “so what” to “now what?”

3. My favorite reason and one I have found the most liberating, inspirational AND motivational is, they finally discover that they CAN change their current circumstances and conditions. They have the freedom and the ability to follow through to say enough is enough, show up. Queen Up, move up and move on. The free will to choose which experiences they will accept and allow and which ones they are ready, able, willing and eager to let go of and leave behind. Which one are you in today? All of them? I am available for coaching and can help you move from dying emotionally to driving your dreams and desires forward to life.

The hurt stops when you say it stops.

The patterns change when you awaken and fully rise in your authentic power and potential.

Happy is not as far away as you have previously thought.

You can live The Royal Life and your own version of Happily Ever After (regardless of your age!)

It is never too late and you are not too old.

I am open & available for workshops, speaking engagements, empowerment groups, retreat facilitations and private and group coaching.

You are ready…It is your time…It is your season.

If you’re familiar with the 50 Shades of Grey, I will teach you about the 7 Shades of Queen that has kept your dreams locked up, keeping you locked away and hidden in the dark closets of life & peoples demands.

Away from your dreams. Away from the real reason you are here- to explore enjoy, create and command a life worth living and relationships worth loving. The shadows that have kept you believing the lies and chasing fairytales, fables and false beliefs that are choking your dreams.

You have had enough of the pain, drama, stress, struggling, settling and sacrificing in all your 4 CORE Relationships.

 You’ve had enough of self-sabotaging your dreams and suffering from Self-Worth-itis.

You can heal the masculine wounds around your worth so you can feel safe and free to explore, expand, express, experience AND enjoy equally supportive and manifest mutually rewarding CORE relationships.

 Time to Queen yourselves up, fully rise to your authentic size and create and command a better life.

~Stacie Campanelli- The Queen Whisperer

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The Storm is The Sign- Have Faith and Keep Going

Are you being shown more demonstration of a storm rather than the delivery of what you want? Keep going! Realize that this is a really GOOD sign!

Know that the closer you get to the light, the bigger the shadow becomes. How exciting is this?  You must have TRUST, FAITH and the burning desire to follow the path of your dreams. Then keep going. Pay attention to the twigs, flowers, and wood floating by you and showing you the way.

Columbus never gave up- He had a dream/goal and a burning desire and refused to give up because of the storms he was encountering.

3 days…on the morning of the third day…him and his crew began to see the other side of the storm…the delivery.

There is such power and magic in the number 3…your signs are everywhere- be awake and aware of the signs of “land.” You are closer than you realize.

Keep going 

“Toward the end of the long voyage, the crew became increasingly restless. So much so that the captains of the Pinta and Niña met with Columbus to discuss turning back before they had a mutiny on their hands. Columbus bargained with them and knew that he could be facing the plank if his “hunch” didn’t pan out. He was able to get them to agree to press on for just THREE more days.

After the meeting, Columbus stood in his faith convinced without wavering that land was near and pressed on. That first night the three ships covered more distance than any other day during the entire journey. This caused concern for the crew.

Why were they suddenly moving so quickly?

The next day, the excitement began to spread amongst the crew. Sure signs of land could be found in the water: twigs, flowers, and wood that had been carved were spotted floating past them.”

Keep going…

Your miracles and manifestation are closer than you think.